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Marriage equality: listening for God rather than imposing

Marriage equality: listening for God rather than imposing

Fox News (!) gives space to Shari Johnson, the mother to a now-married lesbian daughter, to tell her tale. In the telling, she disputes the previously aired opinions of Mark Driscoll, a pastor who believes sex is fundamentally an act of selfishness – but still, a kind of selfishness which only one man and one woman may enjoy.

Johnson writes:

The principles for heterosexual marriage are the same for same-sex marriage—love, commitment, faithfulness, loyalty, honor and respect. How can we deny that to anyone?

My daughter and her partner were married in 2004 and I couldn’t ask for a better spouse for my daughter, or daughter-in-law for me. However, my attitude traveling to the wedding was far different from my attitude on the trip home. God attends gay weddings. Who knew?


When I asked a wise friend how she reconciled the scriptures with her daughter’s homosexuality, she said, “I can’t. So I just let God sort it out.” I took her advice and I learned things about God I would never have known if I were still telling Him what His scriptures mean.


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James Pirrung-Mikolajczyk

Mr Sinkula,

I understand how scriptural lenience is given to gays; I just don’t buy it. Should we be lenient with incest or polygamy as well?


James Pirrung-Mikolajczyk

E Sinkula

It is sad when people like James claim that those of us who believe God blesses same-sex marriage are simply disregarding the Scriptures and have not studied them diligently.

Josh Magda

To quote Peter Gomes, “If God wrote the Bible, he could have used a good editor.”

Here is a comprehensive site by a wonderful atheist where you can peruse the hateful texts of the Bible in all their repugnant and un-Christ like “glory”

James Pirrung-Mikolajczyk

Honestly, to disregard Paul’s discussion of homosexuality per Romans 1 and First Corinthians 6 is telling God what his scriptures mean. 1Co 6:9 makes it clear that both the passive and the active partners in a gay relationship are not members of God’s kingdom. To say otherwise is to ignore what God has to say on the matter and promote a humanist ideal. One of the main problems that liberal Christians are guilty of is using degrading words like “homophobe” to attack those of us who cannot reconcile the Bible to gay marriage. Yet, they dislike when conservatives use hateful language at them. If you don’t like degradation and intolerance, don’t be guilty of it yourself.


James Pirrung-Mikolajczyk

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