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Five ways the church failed

Five ways the church failed

Matthew Paul Turner blogs that the church failed in five ways when so many Christians showed up at their local Chick-fil-A on Wednesday.

One: It may not have been hate, but it sure did not look like love.

Two: “People felt hate and we ignored that.”

Three: “By rallying behind CFA, Christians put an issue above people.”

Four: “Once again, the mass actions of Christians built another wall of distrust between the Church and the GLBTQ communities.”

Five: The “hoopla surrounding CFA did nothing to prove that Christians don’t hate gay people.”

Trust me, I understand that most people who ate chicken sandwiches at CFA yesterday did not do that as an act of hate. I get that. And that’s cool and all, but did the act of going out of your way to CFA prove that to be true? Do you think that the GLBTQ communities believe you? Would you, if you were gay, believe you?

Now before you answer that, remember that yesterday’s CFA Love Day was just one action in a long line of many. Because let’s face it: Christians go WAY out of their way to “hate the sin”–i.e., by voting against gay marriage, voting against civil unions, voicing their angst about gay people adopting children (just to list a few). Is it possible that Christians lose the ability to truly “love the sinner” because they’re so busy “hating the sin”? Do Christians put anywhere near the energy into “loving the sinner” as they do “hating the sin”?

All I know is that the GLBTQ communities are becoming quite used to feeling unloved by Christians. And with good reason.

How many times do we hear Christians say something like, “I don’t hate gay people. I may not agree with their lifestyle. But I don’t hate them… ”

If you were gay, would you believe that? Think about it. Would you feel loved by somebody if they included rules, context, and/or explanations about your lifestyle every time they spoke about how much they don’t hate you? Only when talking about gay people do Christians feel the need to preface their “love” or “non-hate” with some variation of “I don’t agree with your lifestyle, but…” Christians don’t talk about any other group of people like that–only gay people.

So, I want to believe Christians when they say “I don’t hate gay people.” But sometimes proof of that is necessary. And yesterday did not prove that. Honestly, yesterday proved little more than how shallow Christians can be sometimes.


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As a vegetarian, I’m toying with the idea of bumper stickers that say, “Hate free. Chicken free. Cholesterol Free.”

Not everyone would get it, granted. But one can, as it were, kill several birds with the same stone by avoiding Chik-fil-A.

Eric Bonetti

Michael Russell

For those who ate at Chick-fil-A today justice was served. Perhaps Arby’s will try this trick next. #badfastfood


“People felt hate and we ignored that.”

I guess I’m “People” not “we”? O_o

I respect that Turner’s heart is in the right place, but I can’t help but feeling he’s drawing the false “Christian *or* LGBT” dichotomy.

I love our straight Christian allies. But ultimately, LGBT Christians tell our own stories (which are part of the Good News!).

JC Fisher

Bill Dilworth

This ought to serve as a corrective to the idea that it is the Right which usurped the title of Christian. Here’s a supposedly progressive Christian endorsing the notion that “Christians” form a monolithic homophobic bloc.

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