Support the Café

Search our Site

10 things they did not tell me about being a priest

10 things they did not tell me about being a priest

by Ann Fontaine

I was ordained on the Day of Epiphany 1996. Though I had been a very active Episcopalian and lay preacher, Eucharistic minister, serving in every area of the church: from Sunday School to Executive Council, for 20 years before ordination, I did not expect what I have discovered about being a priest. I resisted allowing myself to pursue this course of life for many years. If only I had known what was in store for me:

1. The wonderful privilege of presiding at the sacraments (well maybe not so much weddings unless the couple really loves what the rite offers them).

2. Working with an abundance of self giving leaders who serve as Senior Wardens, Junior Wardens, lectors, Eucharistic Ministers, Altar Guild, and all those who just quietly go about getting things done. Serving throughout the years as an interim priest, I was particularly blessed with wise and thoughtful Senior Wardens who were colleagues in healing and re-focussing their churches

3. The lawn mowing and gardening teams who keep the properties looking loved.

4. The questions about faith and life and the deep discussions about things that matter.

5. Being allowed to attend the dying, when we gather and sit and pray a person into the next part of their journey. As well as the opportunity to be with those whose lives will never be the same reaching out to each other, healing old wounds, being honest (not always -but often)

6. Preparing for and giving sermons – a process that almost always brings me new insights and the presence of the Holy Spirit. With thanks to my homiletics professor who made us really dig into the text and would not let us off with easy answers.

7. Children with hands held out to receive the bread and the wine, like the little boy who wrote thank and you on his hands – upside down so I would read them as he held out his hands or the little girl whose mother did not think she was old enough to receive but who slid her hands under the railing and looked at me with big understanding eyes.

8. Telling Bible stories that are both hilarious and endlessly revealing of who we are and who God is and how it all fits together.

9. Praying with people and thanks to the Assembly of God VA chaplain of my summer of CPE [Clinical Pastoral Education] who made this life-long Episcopalian of the Book of Common Prayer pray spontaneously at any moment!

10. And the most amazing sense of standing in the center of time when presiding at the Eucharist with all that went before and all that will be flowing through me at that moment of epiclesis.

If only I had known that I would never be more myself than in my life as a priest. Thanks to all who supported me along the way and allowed me to have this gift.

The Rev. Ann Fontaine is a retired priest who lives on the coast of Oregon and staff for Episcopal Café. She is the author of Streams of Mercy: a meditative commentary on the Bible.


Café Comments?

Our comment policy requires that you use your real first and last names and provide an email address (your email will not be published). Comments that use non-PG rated language, include personal attacks, that are not provable as fact or that we deem in any way to be counter to our mission of fostering respectful dialogue will not be posted.

Oldest Most Voted
Inline Feedbacks
View all comments
Kathy Staudt

Thanks, Ann, for this lovely post — a reminder for all of us in the church of what a gift ministry is. And also an affirmation of Brother David Steindl-Rast’s observation that gratefulness is the heart of prayer.

Eric Funston

Good stuff, Ann! Good stuff.

Adam Spencer

A truly beautiful reflection on your vocation and years of service to the Church. Thank you!


Yes to all of this, but most of all to walking with people in a community that faces life as it really is, full of joy and pain and including but not ending in death (a reality our society so often wishes to deny), worth living because God is with us always, giving us strength and reason to walk together. (And yes especially to all of those little hands, reaching out so eagerly!)

Cathy Kerr


Lovely reflection, Ann. Is it just me, or do we often hear more about the difficulties of being a priest, rather than the joys? Priests are human, and I’m certain that the vocation brings with it hardships, but I’m pleased to hear about the good times.

June Butler

Support the Café
Past Posts

The Episcopal Café seeks to be an independent voice, reporting and reflecting on the Episcopal Church and the Anglican tradition.  The Café is not a platform of advocacy, but it does aim to tell the story of the church from the perspective of Progressive Christianity.  Our collective sympathy, as the Café, lies with the project of widening the circle of inclusion within the church and empowering all the baptized for the role to which they have been called as followers of Christ.

The opinions expressed at the Café are those of individual contributors, and, unless otherwise noted, should not be interpreted as official statements of a parish, diocese or other organization. The art and articles that appear here remain the property of their creators.

All Content  © 2017 Episcopal Café