Honoring the institution of marriage

William McColl in a letter to the editor of The Washington Post:


I am a gay man. My partner lives 12 time zones away. We are in a monogamous relationship, and we do not cheat. We get to see each other only twice a year for less than three weeks. Although he is a professional in marketing, the United States will not let him immigrate because he was not picked in the lottery. The federal government would not recognize our relationship if I married him. The government will not allow us to be together.

South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford ["S.C. Gov. Sanford Admits to an Affair," front page, June 25] and Sen. John Ensign (and former House speaker Newt Gingrich and senator Larry Craig) oppose same-sex marriages even as they do their best to destroy the institution of marriage in the United States.

I pay my taxes. I served in the military. I was an Eagle Scout. In short, I am a good, but second-class, citizen. It's very hard not to be infuriated by the double standards.

Posted by Jim Naughton on June 26, 2009 8:57 PM | |
Comments (3)

Unfortunately this story is too familiar.

Posted by Peter Pearson [TypeKey Profile Page] | June 26, 2009 11:22 PM

I´m in a similar situation but have elected to live in Latin America as a temporary, yet always hopeful for change, solution for the past 20 years. Noticing the extra-marital/irresponsible secret sexcapades of Republicans and ¨religious¨ leaders who lack dignity in their REAL lives underscores the REAL need for being accountable and irresponsible in my very own...pretend is dangerous, hypocrisy is worse...the self-searching must come from within if I am to maintain my desire for personal spiritual progress in all areas of my life...it would be a REAL mistake to think that bigoted blowhards, religious or political, know best.

Posted by Leonardo Ricardo [TypeKey Profile Page] | June 27, 2009 12:26 PM

whoops, a need to be ¨responsible¨ not ¨irresponsible¨ in my own life...blame/shame doesn´t work for them and it doesn´t change my ¨circumstances¨ but it does serve to keep from playing PRETEND!

Posted by Leonardo Ricardo [TypeKey Profile Page] | June 27, 2009 12:30 PM

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